It’s Not Just For Her Great Advice
Throughout the years, my mother daughter relationship has survived a lot of highs and lows. One thing she used to tell me was that I can come to her for anything… and she did not lie about that.
Alhamdulilah, even though I used to think she was too hard on me, I must say that there are some perks of having your mother as a best friend. Or as I like to call her, my confidant.
Depending on the relationship each and everyone of us has with our mothers, the advantages may or may not be obvious… So here are my top five advantages of having a stable relationship with your mother.
1. Complies With The Sunnah
When the prophet Mohammad (SWS) was asked who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship, he answered three times “Your mother.” I have to say, that reason alone made me respect and appreciate her more.
This advantage is more beneficial for her than it is for me, because since I have a soft spot for my mom, she can make me do anything she would likes. Thankfully, she never goes overboard with her needs and wants. My mom is indeed VERY worthy of my good companionship, Alhamdulilah.
2. Your Mother Can Be An Awesome Motivator
I say that, because I used to yo-yo diet throughout my high school years. Even though, as I mentioned above, I used to think she was too hard on me, I have to say that if it wasn’t for all of her harsh comments I would still be as overweight as I once was.
I remember when she made me workout everyday, and made sure that I wasn’t overeating. I only mentioned this one example, but there are so many situations where my mom stayed right by my side and motivated me so I could reach any goal I wanted (with the help of Allah (SWT) of course!)
I remember this one time, I was teased by a couple of guys in high school when I first started to wear my hijab. As soon as my mom knew about it, she went straight to the principal’s office
3. She Would Never Hurt Me On Purpose
I bring up this particular advantage, because I learned the hard way that a girl’s mother is the only person she can trust.
I’ve met girls, who I thought were my friends, but turned out to be the opposite. I don’t know if it’s because of my not being mature enough or just that we didn’t have as much in common as I first thought, but in the end, my mom was the only person I could, and still can, count on today.
Anything she ever did or said to me, helped me become the person I am today Alhamdulilah.
It may sound a little bit cheesy, but I believe that building a solid relationship with your mother is a long term investment.
She Always Has My Back
This is one aspect that has never changed. What I mean is that regardless of the circumstances, no matter how much we argued or bumped heads, she always was the first to defend me about anything and everything.
I remember this one time, I was teased by a couple of guys in high school when I first started to wear my hijab. As soon as my mom knew about it, she went straight to the principal’s office and asked her to make them stay as far away from me as possible.
After that incident, I told her that not a lot of mothers actually stand up for their kids as much as she does and she told me that if she didn’t do that she wouldn’t feel complete.
She’s an Awesome Shopping Buddy
I have to admit, back in high school, I never considered my mom’s style cool enough for me.
Now that I’ve become a young adult, I realize that anything I ever bought and that was approved by her, helped to create any kind of image I wanted.
Another thing that makes her such a great person to shop with is that thanks to her, I’ve become more conscious of the things I buy. I tend to buy items that don’t cost too much, are timeless, yet still look good on me when I wear them.
All in all, those advantages make me grateful for having such an amazing role model in my life.
Of course there are other perks of having a good relationship with our mothers and I promise that being close with them is one of the best feelings in the world!